I was considering whether I should still talk about Coronavirus lockdown, especially with this weekend being a big turning point in the UK with many businesses including pubs and hairdressers now finally opening again. But then I thought, even though things are easing around the world, there are still restrictions in place and whilst we can do more than we could before, I know many here in the UK still very much feel like we are still one way or another in lockdown, and in actual fact some cities have been placed back in to it. The reality is that we all have concerns in place from financial stresses to health worries to how we are going to come out the other side of things and what life is going to be like, and I know from this being my 16th week in lockdown that trying to deal with those stress and worries along with coping with life in lockdown can definitely take its toll.
So for those who are still having to deal with this situation, I hope to be able to share a few little gems that I have found helpful to me and having spoken to others I know has helped them to keep going too.
You are not alone
After talking to a friend the other day this had to be one of the main things that I came away with: I am not alone! I was sharing how strange it felt to be wearing my comfy’s pretty much all day every day with little to no make up, or how when I woke in the morning it felt a bit like ground hog day wondering how we will get through a whole day again on our own, and how I was struggling to find the motivation to want to eat well, exercise, or find time for personal development etc. The biggest thing that I was struggling with was how this felt so far removed from who I am and what I enjoy, and I was concerned that I wouldn’t get back to what it was like before, has lockdown changed me? But by simply having this honest conversation and sharing my feelings and concerns it became so clear that I am not the only one feeling like this and experiencing these sorts of thoughts. The reality is that lockdown has changed so much for all of us, and so quickly that none of us have had any time to work out our game plan. With many thrown in to working from home whilst looking after children, not being able to see friends and family, or worrying if there’s a job to go back to at the end of this, we are all dealing with life in a very different way. Now I don’t know about you, but feeling like I am not alone just helps me to pause for a moment, breathe, and know that in time we will work all of this out, therefore removing any pressure to change things as they are now.
It’s all in the routine
I don’t know about you but I am definitely one who tries to rebel a little against thinking I need a routine at times, but I cannot deny that it is an integral part of my daily life set up and without one I am left feeling lost, unproductive, demotivated and pretty deflated at the end of it. Nobody can deny that our routines have totally been thrown up in the air since the start of all of this, and I think it’s OK to have a little adjusting time, but there is a lot to be said about creating a new routine. As blurtitout explain “Having a routine can help us to cultivate positive daily habits and to prioritise self-care”.
As well as creating good habits, a routine can also help reduce stress, improve our sleep and boost our mind. So if you haven’t yet created your new little routine for Coronavirus lockdown I would highly recommend doing it now.
What are your exposing yourself to?
As one of my favour mentors Jim Rohn taught: “Stand guard at the door of your mind.” Phwoar thats a powerful one isn’t it! But it is so true, think about it, whatever you are allowing to enter your mind through your exposures will have a huge impact on your feelings, your thoughts and your subsequent actions.
Since starting lockdown we decided to be careful with just how much of the news we were watching around Coronavirus. We have never been big news watchers because of keeping in mind what Jim Rohn taught, but we found ourselves turning it on a lot more wanting to keep up to date but what do you think happened as a result of this? Our anxiety levels increased, it dominated our conversations in the evening having just watched it, we started talking to neighbours about it more and the language that we used became that of negativity and fear instead of hope, belief and positivity. You can then become really good at creating a pity party right! Not something we want to be engaging in that’s for sure!
Check out this great video by Bob Proctor that explains something called the Law of Attraction, which explains the above really well.
Remove your expectations
I can’t help but feel like the more we set up our expectations of a certain situation the more we potentially set ourselves up for disappointment. They can certainly change our experience, therefore influencing our responses to everything or everyone that we come across.
Given that we have never been in this siutation before and it really is something outside of any type of norm that we have ever experienced, I would certainly recommend removing any type of expectation of what this should be like, how we should be coping or what we should be feeling. Do this and watch the stresses start to melt away more. This can hugely help you to be more present which can really help to manage any anxiety.
Comparison can take away your joy
We shared a post before about the importance of not comparing yourself to others, and I would really recommend having a read through this too.
It is so easy to compare ourselves to others during this time, whether it be the neighbour next door, a friend we are in communication with or that social media account which shows everything seemingly perfect on the outside. Just don’t do it to yourself!
We are all different, experiencing different stresses and worries in our own way and we all deal with things in our own unqiue way so as soon as you find yourself comparing to somebody else and thinking you “should” be doing this or “should” be feeling like that….Stop!!! It will not do you any favours.
Get rid of the guilt
I don’t know about you but I have spent many times during these 16 weeks feeling guilty that perhaps I am not making this most out of this time, having thoughts such as “we will never get this time to slow down and spend with our children again, so I should be enjoying it” or, “I should have been using this time to develop or do something I wouldn’t have been able to do before.”
Let me stop you there! If you are finding yourself using any of the words “should” or “could” then you are setting yourself up on the path of guilt. These words do not do us any favours, so instead, a better way to look at it is that you are doing the best that you can with what you have available to you. I know, I know, it’s easy to say that, and believe me I am not perfect with that and it is still something that I am working on, but one thing I can tell you is that if you can become conscious to the language you are using it makes all the difference.
Making a difference
I really do hope that you now feel equipped with a few tools to help you on your way to getting through Coronavirus lockdown as successfully as you can.
If you are experiencing any difficulties, or indeed have any questions or would like to share your experience then please do leave a comment below, I would love to connect with you.