When setting any type of goal it is so important to know your why to achieve whatever it is that you’re setting out to achieve. So many people work out ‘the how’ and ‘the why’ gets left behind, but it should be the other way round; Once you have figured out your why, the how becomes easy.
We have purchased countless journals and planners in the past that have ended up going to waste a month down the line. We have sat down time after time excitedly writing our goals and subsequent action plan, all to be followed by disappointment when “Big MO” (a term coined by Darren Hardy in his book “The Compound Effect”) didn’t stay around for very long.
Does this all sound familiar? Well the great news is that if it does, the problem doesn’t lie with you, it is in actual fact the approach. How many times have you said “I will start on Monday”? But Why Monday, why not now? We all do it don’t we! This is because we are relying on Will-power (which we need initially to get out bums in to gear), but it is the Staying power that keeps us going. So normally, your will-power kicks in on Sunday ready to get going on Monday, but then it kicks back out again by the following Sunday (if you’re lucky) and Staying Power never makes an appearance.
Start by getting your ‘why’ down on paper.
If, you can follow this step by step guide you will soon realise that you have just set goals in a way that you have never set them before. What does this mean? Big Mo is likely to stay around for longer and you are likely to see the result of those goals. Exciting hey! Let’s get started.
1. Write down your goal (yep… grab that Journal, we will let you this time)
2. Then keep digging until you can’t dig anymore to find out what is motivating you to achieve that goal. Think of the child who always asks “WHY?” and become that child.
Example: I would like a new job. (Now before we go any further lets just double check that against the key goal setting points we mentioned in our previous post: It is not Specific and does not have a time frame on) So this revisited should be something like:
I would like a new job in my area of passion of helping others by the end of this year.
Now let’s get digging
Why: Because I want a new job before the baby arrives next year
Why: Because it is an area of my life that I would like to get sorted before my Wife goes on Maternity Leave.
Why: Because I don’t want her to stress about finances and how we will manage once we become a family.
Why: Because I feel it is my duty to provide for my family and to give them the upbringing they deserve, as well as being a role model for my children.
Why: Because I never had this in life and I feel it affected me getting started once I was in secondary school and I don’t want my children to experience that.
WOW! Now there’s a why. Can you see the difference? If we would have just taken the first why at face value we would think that it’s important to this person to get a new job before the baby arrives. Fair enough, you can’t dispute that, BUT, re-read that last why statement again. You can feel immediately how much more powerful it is, how much more emotion it holds and how much more likely it is to get this person out of bed searching for a new job each day.
3. Once you have your goal and your why, re-write it in the present tense as if it has happened and give as much detail as possible.
Example: It is the 20th December 2020 and I just writing my out of office reply before I take 2 weeks off to enjoy Christmas. I am so thrilled that I have found my new job as a Consultant as it fills me with pride and satisfaction each and every day I go to work. Being able to work from home 2 days per week, and only having a 20 minute commute means that I am going to be able to give my Wife the support she needs, and spend time with my new-born when they arrive. I am over the moon that I have already found 5 clients, and am excited to continue to fill my diary and be working with a total of 20 clients before the baby arrives. I am finally feeling like I am successful at something and I am showing my child the importance of a good work ethic, whilst maintaining a healthy work and life balance.
Now that’s a bit different isn’t it. But again, undisputedly powerful. By including the detail it helps to uncover other areas that are important such as commute time, target clients and how that jobs fit in to current life. So why should you write your goals in this way and what are the benefits?
- The brain doesn’t know the difference between past, present and future tense. By writing something in the present it creates a go get it attitude.
- It helps you to visualise not only the goal but also the person you would be in order to achieve that goal. The brain also likes pictures, if you can create this image of your goal in your mind your brain will hold on to it much more (Hence why they say Vision boards are so good).
- It creates feeling and emotion, this is extremely powerful for not only getting you started but also for keeping going when the road gets a little bumpy.
So before you do anything or read any further, grab a pen and paper and create your very own power goal.
Questions you should be asking…
So if you have done this correctly, you should now have your amazing goal in front of you, so we have popped a few questions down to ask yourself just to make sure you’ve totally got this. We all are about the success!
- Does my goal light the fire in my belly? For us, when we have done it properly we definitely feel emotional every time we read back through it. Now you may not be an emotional person, we get it, but, there’s definitely an argument to say that anything that is really important to you will strike some kind of emotion inside.
- Can you see your new incredible goal everyday? You need to ensure you are reading this regularly, so do several copies and stick it on your bathroom mirror, your fridge, in your diary, your desk at work. Anywhere you know you will see it every single day. Try to make this hand-written as you are much more likely to achieve a goal if you write it yourself instead of typing it.
- Am I ready? Because let’s face it, a goal like this is going to result in some serious action. So whilst you may have set yourself a goal and plan before, you will never have done one like this.
What you can expect now
This is pretty simple and rather exciting:
- You will find that your goal will give you that prolonged get up and go
- You may even find you want to get up that bit earlier or stay up that bit later to work on your goal.
- You will actually get round to using that Journal you once brought for that ‘big goal’
- You will accelerate towards your goals like never before.
Key things to remember
So we just wanted to finish on some key take away points to help you on your way
- Your why may change, and that’s OK. As your life and circumstances change this can affect your reasons why you are doing something. Working towards the goal itself may even provoke something inside that makes a difference. This is where regularly reviewing your goals is really important.
- There is no right or wrong when it comes to your Why. It is your why! You may have the same goal as your neighbour or your friend but it is very likely that the reason they want to achieve that is very different from yours. And that is absolutely fine, there’s is right for them, and yours right for you.
- Different goals may have different why’s. As you progress through and find yourself setting various goals you will need to follow this process each and every time, because not only will a goal change but your life and circumstances will too.
That’s a wrap
So there you have it… a complete step by step process on how to find your why for your goals and how to make them stronger, more powerful and more exciting than they have ever been before.
We wish you lots of luck with this one and we hope you enjoy the process just as much as we do.