Welcome to the third episode of the Pick Me Up Podcasts. I am very much looking forward to sharing today’s episode with you as I know how much self care as a Mum can be a real struggle, but I also know how much of a huge difference it can make to the way we feel. This episode is all about finding realistic ways to incorporate it to your life as a Mum, and hopefully get you on your way to your own self care journey.
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Transcript Of Self Care Is Not Selfish
I’m Emma, founder of Personal Development Time and host of the pick me up podcast: the perfect go to for a quick but effective pick me up at the times when you need it most. Designed for mums with their needs in mind!
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This week’s topic is all about self care. Now I know, you’re probably hearing this and having a giggle to yourself… Self care as a Mum! Come on!
But my intention is to share with you that it is absolutely possible and show you exactly how you can go about doing it.
Now don’t get me wrong, I am far from perfect with this and it is something that I continue to work on, but I figured it is something that I am going through myself so what better way to get you going than with somebody else who shares your experiences, your challenges, your thoughts, and your mum guilt (god we are good at that aren’t we!)
So all this talk about self care but what is it? Well we can all picture the burn-out scene can’t we, where we push and push and give as much to everybody and everything else as we can that eventually we fall flat and are forced to take a rest due to severe tiredness, illness or a struggle with our mental health. The consequences of a burn-out are huge on our health, both physically and mentally. But in order to give your best to others you have to be feeling at your best yourself and you certainly can’t look after others if you aren’t taking care of yourself.
Ultimately self care is about stopping to make the good choices. It is about giving your mind, body and soul time to rest (ah I love this thought)
So let’s get into covering some ground on self care and answering some questions before we look at the details as to how you can get going on your own self care journey.
Firstly, incase you still aren’t convinced that is absolutely something to include into your routine, whilst also juggling everything else that comes with mummy hood, let’s take a look at the benefits:
- Firstly, you will feel like you have more balance because it will be encouraging you to take time for you (something we really aren’t great at as mums hey!)
- You will give a better version of you to others, because you will feel happier, more content and settled in yourself.
- You may find that you feel less stressed throughout your day, wouldn’t that be nice
- There is much less chance of suffering burn-out
- It acts as a recharge. Just think about what happens when your phone battery is showing low? You plug it in right! Think of self care in the exact same way but for yourself.
So how often should you do it?
Once a month, once a week? Once a quarter? Let’s keep this super short and simple. Every day!
Yup, that’s right. Think of it not as a guilty pleasure, but more as a preventative measure.
So if I am saying that it is something that you can do everyday, I know you are now thinking well what sort of things does this include, and how on earth can I do that whilst also juggling everything else as a Mummy, all without making it an added stress? Well the very last thing we want or need is for this to be just another thing that you need to fit into your daily life. We have enough of that going on. So let’s look at some really easy ideas that you could easily slot in to your daily:
- Exercise. This can be in whatever capacity you enjoy, maybe it’s walking, or doing some yoga, taking 5 minutes to stretch.
- Nutrition: Fueling the body with the right nutrients to get the most out of it will make a huge difference to how you feel, instead of turning to the “instant feel-good” kind of stuff.
- Having the ability to say no: Something that we all struggle with (I can certainly hold my hands up to this one), but by saying no it means we do not hold resentment, we do not try to fit in too much and we find a balance.
- Spending quality time with those we love: This could be as simple as a cuppa and a chat, or could mean going out somewhere. Just something to work on those key relationships in our life, give you some adult interaction and break up the monotony that can come with each day.
- Reading something we enjoy: This does not have to be a self-help book, reading any kind of fictional book, or a magazine can absolutely class as self care and give us that much-needed down time.
- Taking a bath: Just the physical act of having to stop and take the time out to relax in a bath is so good for us. So ditch the phone, grab a book if you wish, get out the candles and enjoy.
- Doing a hobby: This could be absolutely anything from sports, to crafts or anything in between. Just something that allows us time to switch off from the stresses of day to day of life and have some time doing something that we enjoy.
- Meditation: You do not need to be a pro at meditation, this could be something as simple as a breathing meditation that we have shared in last week’s podcast that just takes a few minutes that you could pop into your daily life.
- Watch something motivational: Exposing yourself to positive material can really lift your mood and be a great pick me up.
So hopefully you can now see how easily you can fit a little self care into your day.
Sometimes we need that push though don’t we, to do something that we know we should do but often don’t get round to, so what better way to do this than with my 30 days of self care.
This ‘challenge’ if you want to call it that, is not necessarily about what you achieve at the end of it. I am not saying that you are all of a sudden going to feel calmer, more mindful, more in tune with your body and that’s self care sorted for life now. This is a process, something you are bringing in as a way of life. So just think of this as a kick up the bum to get that going.
So how will these 30 days work? Well, in whatever way you want it to. The idea is that you commit to 30 days of focusing on your self care. This could mean you set up a schedule and try something new each day (this would be great if you are just exploring this concept and want to know what works best for you). Or maybe you have dabbled in a bit of self care before and you know what works, so you would like to set up something that you do without fail every day and complete that for the 30 days. It honestly is down to you, it’s about finding something that works for you and allows you to take that much needed down-time.
If you’re on social media, be sure to follow me at personal.development.time and join the online community all working towards doing the same by sharing your journey using the hashtag 30daysofselfcare
Point to note!
It is inevitable that life will end up getting busy and stressful at times, and self care is usually the first thing to go. But how are you going to manage during these stressful times if you neglect this area? Self care is not something that you do when everything is running smoothly, it is something that needs to be incorporated into everyday life, designed especially for those challenging times. So creating a plan for this is important. Check out what could get in the way of doing your self care activities and work out what you can do to overcome this. This means it is important to be realistic with your self care plan. Whilst you may love to be able to do an hour of yoga, half hour of meditation, take a long hot bath for an hour and be in bed early every night this may require a lot of additional time that you don’t currently have, so perhaps start with one or two things, or work out what is important. So for example, maybe you feel you would like to do it all but you need to do a snippet of that to be able to fit it into your daily life.
The important thing to recognise is that this is an ongoing process that will evolve and change over time. It requires constant attention and the key, like with anything, is that you need to enjoy it to keep it going. But there is no formula, you need to experiment and find out what works for you.
So there you have it, your own self care plan to give you that much needed “you-time” that you so deserve. One thing I can guarantee, is that if you can implement this into your daily life, it will be something that you will never regret.
I look forward to seeing your 30 days of self care journey.
Here’s to more balance in our life Mummies.
Sending love, as always
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